As summer winds down and the new school year approaches, it’s natural for both children and parents to feel a mix of excitement and anxiety. For children with ADHD, the transition can be particularly challenging, given their need for routine and structure. With a bit of preparation and strategic planning, you can make this transition as smooth as possible for your child. Here’s a comprehensive guide to help you support your child in returning to school.
1. Start Preparing Early
The key to a smooth transition is preparation. Begin adjusting your child's routine a week or more before school starts. This involves shifting bedtimes and wake-up times gradually to match the school schedule. Aim to wake up 15 minutes earlier each day to avoid a sudden change. Incorporate school-like activities into the daily routine, such as mock school mornings and practice runs.
Action Steps:
Set a clear “back-to-school” plan on the calendar.
Gradually adjust sleep schedules.
Reintroduce school routines like picking out clothes and preparing school bags the night before.
2. Create a Consistent Routine
Children with ADHD thrive on consistency. Establishing a structured daily routine can significantly ease their anxiety. This includes a set morning routine, designated times for homework, and a calming evening ritual. Role-play school scenarios to help your child visualise the day and address any concerns.
Action Steps:
Develop a daily timetable with visual aids like checklists and charts.
Practice routines such as getting dressed, having breakfast, and preparing for school.
Use role-play to help your child familiarise themselves with school routines.
3. Handle Emotions and Stress
Returning to school can stir up a range of emotions, from excitement to anxiety. Open up a dialogue with your child about their feelings and concerns. Encourage them to express their emotions and validate their feelings. Practice relaxation techniques, such as deep breathing, to help manage stress. It might also be helpful to establish a “calm-down” kit with soothing activities like colouring books or stress balls.
Action Steps:
Have regular conversations about how your child is feeling.
Teach and practice relaxation techniques together.
Create a calm-down kit with items that help your child relax.
4. Manage Fidgeting
For many children with ADHD, fidgeting is a common way to manage excess energy and maintain focus. If your child uses fidget tools, such as fidget spinners or stress balls, ensure they understand the appropriate times and places for using them. It might be useful to have a discussion with their teacher to ensure that fidget tools can be used effectively in the classroom without causing distraction.
Action Steps:
Discuss with your child when and how to use fidget tools appropriately.
Coordinate with the school to ensure fidget tools are allowed and used correctly.
5. Reacquaint with School Expectations
Help your child understand what will be different about the school routine compared to their summer schedule. Discuss changes such as earlier wake-up times, school-specific rules, and new activities. Visual aids and social stories can be effective in illustrating these differences. Preparing your child for these changes can help reduce anxiety and improve their readiness for school.
Action Steps:
Use visual aids to illustrate changes between summer and school routines.
Discuss and role-play the new expectations and daily schedule.
Use social stories to explain new school rules and routines.
6. Communicate with School Staff
Maintaining open lines of communication with your child’s school is crucial. Inform teachers and staff about any concerns or specific needs your child might have. Set up a meeting if possible to discuss any adjustments or support required.
Action Steps:
Contact the school to discuss your child’s needs and any concerns.
Request updates on any new protocols or changes in the school environment.
Establish a point of contact for ongoing communication.
7. Encourage Social Interaction
Help your child reconnect with friends before school starts. Arrange meet-ups or virtual hangouts to reduce the feeling of unfamiliarity on the first day. This can help ease social anxieties and reinforce existing friendships.
Action Steps:
Schedule playdates or virtual meet-ups with classmates.
Encourage your child to reach out to friends before school starts.
8. Manage Medication and Health Needs
If your child takes ADHD medication, make sure to review and adjust their medication schedule as needed. Consult with your child’s healthcare provider if there are any changes in routine or medication requirements.
Action Steps:
Reassess medication needs with your child’s healthcare provider.
Ensure prescriptions are up to date and follow the adjusted routine.
9. Foster a Positive Outlook
Your attitude can significantly impact your child’s perspective on returning to school. Focus on the positives, such as seeing friends and engaging in favourite activities. Celebrate their achievements and provide reassurance and support throughout the process.
Action Steps:
Highlight positive aspects of returning to school, such as social interactions and enjoyable activities.
Offer praise and encouragement to build confidence.
10. Be Patient and Flexible
Understand that the adjustment period might take time. Be patient and supportive, and be prepared to make adjustments as needed. If your child seems overwhelmed, offer them time to unwind and express their feelings.
Action Steps:
Be ready for a settling-in period and provide extra support if needed.
Allow your child time to adjust and be open to discussing their feelings and concerns.
As an ADHD coach, I understand the unique challenges that come with transitioning back to school, especially for children with ADHD. Each child is different, and what works for one may not work for another. My hope is that these tips provide a solid foundation to support your child’s return to school. Remember, patience and flexibility are key. If you find that additional support is needed, don’t hesitate to reach out for professional guidance.
Wishing you and your child a smooth and successful start to the school year!
Mirka